Is it being picky or not willing to settle? 

We hear it all the time when you’re single. “You’re too picky.” “What’s wrong with you?” But what’s wrong with having some standards and not being ok with settling just for the sake of having a man, any piece of a man for that matter. I for one believe in not settling for less than what you deserve. Of course I get lonely, and at times I get weak and settle for just a warm body in bed (hey, just keeping it real,) at the end of the day I want a whole lot more than that.

And by standards I mean, the way he treats you, having someone who sees a future with you, who has goals and is working towards achieving them, someone you’re compatible with on all levels…so I’m not hung up on looks at all. Of course I’d love for my future boo to look like Dwayne “the Rock” Johnson, but as long as he treats me like a queen, it’s not about what he looks like. Now, don’t hear what I’m not saying, I do have to at least find him attractive & desirable, so no ugga boogas please!!!

Is it wrong to want the happily ever after? Uh, heck no! For me, as a divorcee, I’ve had my heart stomped on, lost myself and my money, and was left with nothing but the pieces to put my life back together. And I did just that, put my big girl panties on and sucked it up to deal with life (that’s actually a good topic for a future blog) but after going through all of that I learned a valuable lesson that I’m so thankful to have learned. That lesson, NEVER settle for less than I deserve. And once I learned the lesson, I’m not planning to make the same mistake twice.

And, since I worked so hard (and God answered my prayers most importantly,) I’m not willing to settle for any ol’ man with a pulse. Not that money is everything, but my future boo has got to come correct and at least have more than I have already. I’m doing well for myself and I’m not willing to let someone come into my life to jack up my situation! After all, I want a help mate, not someone I have to keep up.

So, call it picky or whatever you like, but when you’ve gone through what I have, you will understand the value of not settling. Know your worth and wait for God’s best! I wish I had done that the first time, but such is life, it doesn’t matter how long it takes to learn the lesson as long as you learn it!