Unattainable standards?

  The past two weeks have been rough 😔. My pastor suddenly passed away, and although I didn’t know him well personally, he had an impact on my life and I learned so, so much from him over the years, I just feel an incredible loss! Dealing with a loss, it just makes you think about a lot of things. There have been days I just wanted a shoulder to cry on and my dear friends and family, they’re super sweet, but I know they’re ready to start talking about something else 😁

I’m a strong person, but at times like this, I miss having someone to hug when I’m sad and someone to wake up to in the middle of the night when I can’t sleep to talk about any and everything that’s on my mind! 

I say all of that to say that with all of this going on, it really makes me realize how much I really want what’s missing in my life. Recently I’ve had many conversations about why I’m single. Some people’s theories are interesting to say the least! I’ve heard that I’m intimidating to men because of my independence or even the way I look. I’ve heard that I may look unapproachable because I always look so put together, and I should dress down sometimes. But all of these possible explanations, while they may be true, why should I change who I am to attract a man? And the type of man that would ask me to change certain things just ain’t the one for me! 

And what’s wrong with having standards? So what my dream man would look like The Rock, you like what you like! But I’m not crazy enough to turn away a good man that comes along because he doesn’t. However I did read an article recently that said that everyone has up to 6 people in the world that they look like, so who knows I may meet his doppledanger one day and fall in love 😁

Although it is taking a looooonnnng time for The Lord to send the answer to my prayers, I’m reminded that He does give us the desires of our hearts and his promises will come to pass, so I remain hopeful, but I’m also human and all of us, no matter how strong we are, sometime have week moments where we doubt. 

Single ladies, don’t let anyone tell you that your standards are unattainable. Settling is never an option. We all deserve awesomeness and nothing less! I’m not saying set your standards so high that only Jesus would meet them, but when you know your worth, wait for God’s best!